The World is unraveling one thread at a time

Considering Utah’s overturning of unequal marriage

The gay and lesbian and trans fathers and mothers I know of queer people like me have dammed the tributaries of hate, mind by mind, in the decades before now, to produce the flood and torrent of righteous love that us tadpoles now get to swim in and metamorphosize into our true and beautiful forms.

How Many American Men Are Gay? →

This is a very interesting piece, and I love it because I’m a statistics nerd, and numbers don’t lie. What are the numbers saying? That Americans are way too uptight about what they are attracted to. I don’t blame them. It’s dangerous for men to admit their attractions. Their lives and livelihoods can be on the line if they do.

Tim Miller, my Queer Hero, Queero?

   Growing up in a relatively conservative family can be a little bit of a bummer for a hopelessly transgender feminine flower such as myself. However, one flower can spy another flower, another familial flower that has pushed through the mulched muck of dogmatic suffering to bloom a bright corona.

   In other words, my second cousin, Tim Miller, was the first person I told that I was transgender. If you don’t know who he is, look him up, because he is a pioneer. Your freedom to be queer rests upon the toil and pain and sacrifice of our forefathers mothers and forequeers.

   In life, we are afforded in our brain only so many slots for heroes and heroines. One of those slots in my cluttered mess of a consciousness is filled by Mr. Miller. Growing up queer in the 80’s and hearing musings of a family member who was “out there” and “obscene” was just the fuel enough to keep me going, thinking that someone else had escaped the oppression, the nightmare.

    Now, we’ve come to be great friends, and I’ve watched as Tim has seen his toil and work come to full fruition as he was able to legally marry his lifelong love Alistair McCartney this year in California. With the abolition of the Defense of Marriage Act, his husband Alistair, an Australian citizen, was able to finally apply for a Green Card after 19 years of fully committed love. Alistair had risked deportation for this entire time, all due to his choice of partner and source of love.

    Here’s to you Tim! Cuz.

<3 Abbie

The flawed are “normal;” the sane are maligned. Those with the conscience of man, we can scarcely find. The beautiful people must all be corrected. The transgender, the gay, the misfits, mistakes. The African of origin people, reviled. The different, the awful, the disgusting, and few. The people like me and the people like you.
I say Fight On! I say Break Through! I say Fight the Power to upend the fools. 
Join me in smashing the system, won’t you? Join me let&#8217;s break the glass ceiling of untruth. Join me in challenging bigotry now. Make the true uglies of thought kneel at pews, and ask for forgiveness for their hatred and views. 
It’s 2013. It’s time to say “NO!” It’s time to say “you are the evil that grows.” 

The flawed are “normal;” the sane are maligned. Those with the conscience of man, we can scarcely find. The beautiful people must all be corrected. The transgender, the gay, the misfits, mistakes. The African of origin people, reviled. The different, the awful, the disgusting, and few. The people like me and the people like you.

I say Fight On! I say Break Through! I say Fight the Power to upend the fools. 

Join me in smashing the system, won’t you? Join me let’s break the glass ceiling of untruth. Join me in challenging bigotry now. Make the true uglies of thought kneel at pews, and ask for forgiveness for their hatred and views. 

It’s 2013. It’s time to say “NO!” It’s time to say “you are the evil that grows.” 

But What Will Sell US and People Magazine?!

Senate Nominee, Mayor of Newark, saver of women from burning buildings, and all around badass and stud-muffin Cory Booker answers a question about his sexuality, which he has been reticent to answer questions about. Some are accusing him of being coy on purpose to attract more votes.

"First of all, this is the ridiculousness of this point. The question should not be whether you’re gay or straight, but the question should be, why are you asking the question in the first place?….The point I’m getting the chance to make right now — and I really, really want to drive this home —  is that we need to stop in America talking abut anybody in a public realm, besides what is important: the content of their character, the quality of their ideas, the courage within their hearts to serve others. Here we have an opponent trying to say god awful things, literally saying, I believe a guy should be a guy. Almost like saying you are not a man if you’re gay. That is so extreme. Let’s shine lights on this for a second and understand that my father taught me what manhood is about. And it’s not about whether you play football or enjoyed badminton. Being a man is about love. About kindness to others. About standing up for what’s right, about doing what’s important to do in the unfinished business of America.”

Harsh words?

I think the gay men got too rich. How else is it so damn expensive to live in the Castro or West Hollywood? There is money coming from somewhere even if it’s not egalitarian. 1970’s gay man was blue collar compared to today. I just have a feeling that power corrupts. That’s all I’m going to say. Look I’ve “been gay” when I was figuring myself out. I think I have a tiny bit of room to talk. Anyway, nobody talks back to the gays. It’s an echo chamber. Especially not from the trans community. But I’m here. I’m trans. I’m proud. I’m all-inclusive. And I ain’t scared to stir up a few nests that need to be rustled or jostled or something. I’m not a nest shaking expert. But I’m learning. And I don’t want to fight. I just want to elevate the conversation even if that involves lowering a few white fluffy clouds back down to earth a little.

Queen gives royal assent to same-sex marriage legislation; gay marriage now legal in England and Wales - @TelegraphNews →

In my head I was thinking that the band Queen gave royal assent (whatever that means) to same-sex marriage. Freddie Mercury in his white one piece suit thing with a huge sceptre blessing two guys kissing. That would be awesome. This is pretty awesome too. Just saying though.

Transgender Man Featured On VH1 Reality TV Show →

On the latest episode of VH1’s “I’m Married To A…” Scott, a transgender man and his partner Jessica are featured. Scott is a performer who travels doing a one man show that highlights his transition.

    This is such a perfect video, you have to go and watch it. Oh and usually the comments on HuffPo are whatever, but this one really nailed it in response to the question of why do trans people feel the need to tell everyone they’re trans:

               

    via Purple Flag.

    Yes, we do want more than two genders, because there are more than two. Three officially recognized genders would be a good start. Five would be better, and seven would be enough for detailed surveys.

    We tell people we are trans because we want to get rights. We’ll not get rights by hiding. Some trans people don’t even have the right to hide, because insurance won’t recognize the need for hormones and surgery, or they don’t have insurance, or they can’t legally get the sex marker changed on their ID. Yeah, some people are so uncomfortable with who they were forced to be that they want to forget it, but not all are actually capable of doing so; for many others, it’s a part of what shaped our personalities and empathy.

    Scott and Jessica are a hetero couple. You’ve got that right.

    And yes, trans* does not equal gay, and trans* erasure is a problem—a big problem. You want to be happy about gay people getting married, but you’re also like: “Can you please work on making it so that trans* people have less than a 1-in-12 chance of getting murdered? Can you please help make it so nonbinary genders are legally recognized? Can you work on getting mandates for insurance companies to cover trans* healthcare: both transition care and also appropriate care for nonbinary post-transition bodies? Can you help us make it easier to get paperwork changed?”

    And everyone thinks it’s all gay rights and all about marriage.